翹首幸福：80后最in的15個人生法則

howitzki · 發(fā)表于 2009-12-20 23:53:44

Most people learn over time, but often learning comes too late tobe fully useful. There are certainly many things that I know nowthat would have been extremely useful to me earlier in my life;things that could have saved me from many of the mistakes and hurtsI suffered over the years—and most of those that I inflicted onothers too。

　　隨著時間的流逝我們一直在獲得新的知識，但是這些學問卻往往在我們需要它的時候姍姍來遲。很多對我早期生活應該極其有用的事情我卻現(xiàn)在才知道，它們本可以幫助我在那些年里避免很多錯誤跟傷害--大部分事情我也曾經(jīng)強加于別人身上過。

　　I don’t buy the romantic notion that my life has been somehow richer or more interesting because of all the times I screwed up;nor that the mistakes were “put” there to help me learn. I made them myself—through ignorance, fear, and a dumb wish to have everyone like me—and life and work would have been less stressfuland more enjoyable (and certainly more successful) without them. Sohere are some of the things I wish I had learned long ago. I hope they may help a few of you avoid the mistakes that I made back then. veduchina

　　我不相信生活會無故地變得富裕而有情趣，那只是浪漫的妄想。因為我一生都充滿動蕩和不安。也不同意錯誤是已經(jīng)存在于某個地方好幫助我們學習的。那些錯誤都是我自己犯的----出于無知、害怕還有希望所有人都喜歡自己的愚蠢愿望----沒有了它們我們的生活工作就會有更少的壓力更多的快樂(當然還包括成功)。下面有幾點是我很久以前就希望自己能夠了解的。期待它們能幫助大家，即使是小部份人，能夠避免重蹈我的覆轍。

　　1. Most of it doesn’t matter.So much of what I got excited about, anxious about, or wasted my time and energy on, turned outnot to matter. There are only a few things that truly count for ahappy life. I wish I had known to concent rate on those and ignorethe rest。

　　1。擁有一顆平常心。

　　太多我曾經(jīng)為其興奮，為其焦慮，亦或是浪費了我時間以及精力的事情到最后卻被證明是無關(guān)緊要的。它們只是幸福生活里極其微小的一部分。我多么希望早點知道這些，以便能把精力都投入到這些關(guān)乎幸福的事，而不是其他。

　　2. The greatest source of misery and hatred in this world isclinging to past hurts.Look at all the terrorists and militant groups that hark back to some event long gone, or base theirjustification for killing on claims of some supposed his torical right to a bit of land, or redress for a wrong done hundreds of years ago.veduchina

　　2。這個世界上痛苦與仇恨最大源泉是對過去的執(zhí)迷。

　　看看那些恐怖組織和激進分子，他們總是抓住過去的一些事情不放，或把一小片土地的歷史歸屬問題作為他們進行殺戮的理由，更或是為了修正幾百年前的所謂的歷史錯誤。文國網(wǎng)

　　3. Waiting to do something until you can be sure of doing itexactly right means waiting for ever.One of the greatest advantages anyone can have is the willingness to make a fool of themselves publicly and often. There’s no better way to learn and develop.Heck, it’s fun too. veduchina

　　3。等待有把握時再去做一件事，往往意味著永遠的等待。

　　一個人能做的最大的冒險事情，就是樂意在公共場合經(jīng)常暴露自己的愚昧。沒有什么能比這樣學得更快。“哎呀”，也是一種樂趣。文國網(wǎng)

　　4.Following the latest fashion, in work or in life, isspiritual and intellectual suicide.You can be a cheap imitation ofthe ideal of the moment; or you can be a unique individual. Thechoice is yours. Religion isn’t the opiate of the masses, fashionis。

　　4。盲目追趕潮流是對精神和智力的扼殺

　　你可以成為一個廉價的時尚木偶，也可以成為獨一無二的你，這些都在于自己的選擇。信仰不是群眾的鴉片，流行才是。

　　5. If people complain that you’re too fond of going your ownway and aren’t fitting in, you must be on the right track.Who wantsto live life as a herd animal? The guys in power don’t want you tofit in for your own sake; they want you to stop causing them problems and follow their orders. You can’t have the freedom to be yourself and meekly fit in at the same time。

　　5。如果有人抱怨你太特立獨行，恭喜你，你正走在正確的路上

　　誰愿意像動物一樣活著？那些強有力的家伙們不希望你按照自己的意愿去做，他們希望你停止給他們制造麻煩并聽從他們的命令。但你得知道，你無法做到在卑躬屈膝的同時又能活出自我。

　　6. If you make your work your life, you’re making your lifeinto hard work. Like most people,I confused myself by looking atpeople like artists and musicians whose life’s “work” fills theirtime. That isn’t work. It’s who they are. Unless you have some overwhelming passion that also happens to allow you to earn aliving doing it, always remember that work should be a means to anend: living an enjoyable life. Spend as little time on the means as possible consistent with achieving the end. Only idiots live towork。

　　6。如果你將工作等同于生活，那么你將為工作而生活

　　和很多人一樣，當看到那些藝術(shù)家和音樂家的工作幾乎是全部的生活，我感到很困惑。其實那不是工作，那是他們的自我。除非你有無法抵擋的激情，恰巧也能讓你從中得以謀生，否則請永遠記住，工作只是一種手段，而不是目的，我們的最終目的是享受生活。在實現(xiàn)目的的同時，盡可能地少花時間在手段上。只有傻瓜才是為工作而生活。

　　7. The quickest and simplest way to wreck any relationship isto listen to gossip.The worst way to spend your time is spreading more. People who spread gossip are the plague-carriers of our day.Cockroaches are clean, kindly creatures in comparison。

　　7。破壞關(guān)系的最快最簡單的方法就是聽信謠言

　　浪費你時間的最糟糕方式是傳播這些謠言。傳播流言蜚語的人好比瘟疫的攜帶者，相比之下，蟑螂都比他們干凈、善良。

　　8. Trying to please other people is largely a futile activity.Everyone will be mad at you sometime.Most of the people you dealwith will dislike, disparage, belittle, or ignore what you say ordo most of the time. Besides, you can never really know what others do want, so a good deal of whatever you do in that regard will goto waste. Be comforted. Those who love you will probably love your egardless, and they are the ones whose opinions are worth caringabout. The rest aren’t worth five minutes of thought between them.veduchina

　　8。試圖取悅別人是徒勞無益的做法

　　總有些人會對你發(fā)飆。很多你接觸的人，在很多時候也會不喜歡、貶低、輕視或忽略你。另外，你永遠也不知道別人真正的需要，因此你為此所做的所有努力都會付諸東流。放松些吧，愛你的人終究會包容你的過失，他們才是值得我們在乎的人。其他那些人，他們甚至都不值得花5分鐘去考慮。

　　9. Every winner is destined to be a loser in due course.It’sgreat to be up on the winner’s podium. Just don’t imagine you canstay there for ever. Worst of all is being determined to do so, byany means available。

　　9。沒有永久的勝利者

　　踏上冠軍寶座是件好事情。但不要夢想著可以永久占據(jù)這個位置，最糟糕的是，你正決定為達此目的而不擇手段。

　　10.You can rarely, if ever, please, placate, change, ormollify an asshole.The best thing you can do is stay away from every one you encounter. Being an asshole is a contagious disease.The more time you spend around one, the more likely you are tocatch it and become one too. veduchina

　　10。不可能取悅、平息或改造一個混蛋

　　你能做的最好方式，是和他們敬而遠之。變成混蛋也能傳染，你和他們呆的時間越長，你也越有可能染上混蛋的習氣或者你就成為混蛋。

　　11. Everything takes twiceas long as you plan for and producesresults about half as good as you hoped. There’s no reason to bed own hearted about this. Just allow for it and move on。

　　11。努力加倍，期望減半

　　任何事情都是花掉你計劃的兩倍時間，最后卻只換來你一半的期望結(jié)果。沒什么好為此沮喪的，(中國俗話說：事倍功半)讓它去吧，你要繼續(xù)前行。

　　12. People are oddly consistent.Liars usually tell lies.Cheaters cheat whenever it suits them. A person who confides in youhas usually confided in several others first—but not got theresponse they wanted. A loyal friend will stay loyal under enormousamounts of thoughtless abuse. veduchina

　　12。人是奇怪的偏執(zhí)狂

　　撒謊者總是撒謊，騙子總要行騙。一個人對你傾訴的時候，通常已在其它人的面前傾訴過，只是可能沒有得到想要回應。一位忠誠的朋友，無論遭受多大的冤屈依舊忠誠。

　　13.However hard you try, you can’t avoid being yourself.Whoelse could you be? You can act and pretend, but the person actingand pretending is still you. And if you won’t accept yourself—anddo the best you can with what you have—who then has any obligationto accept you?

　　13。接納自己

　　不管你怎么努力，你都無法逃避成為自己。除了自己，你還能成為誰呢？你可以扮演和假裝，但進行扮演和假裝的人還是你自己。如果你都無法接納自己，沒有努力挖掘自己已有的東西，那么誰有義務(wù)接納你呢？

　　14. When it comes to blatant lies, there are none more egregious than budget figures.Time spent agonizing over them istime wasted. Even if (miracle of miracles!) yours are accurate, noone else will have been so foolish。

　　14。談到公眾謊言，沒有比預算數(shù)字更令人震驚的

　　14。把時間折騰在這上面，是浪費時間。既使(奇跡中的奇跡！) 你是實事求是并且準確的，其他人也不會那么愚蠢。

　　15. The loudest noise in the world is the sound of people whining.Don’t add to it. veduchina

　　15。世界上最大的噪音是人們的抱怨不要再增加了